“Do good, feel good”is one of the great truths of happiness — but you may be thinking, “Sure, good deeds would make me happy, but I barely have time to get through the essentials of my day.I don’t have time to doany good deeds!"
Return Balance To Your Life
By Mel Feller, MPA, MHR
Mel Feller Seminars, Coaching For Success 360 Inc. /Mel Feller Coaching
In order to return balance to your life, remove the excuses from your life.
Attitude is more important than intelligence. The reasons why you can do anything must replace the reasons why you can`t. Find ways to win not to lose. Winning attitude that were once very easy may become more difficult with age.
This document provides tips for getting over a breakup without seeking revenge against an ex. It recommends exercising, getting a new hobby, focusing on personal goals, treating yourself through acts like getting a new haircut, wardrobe, and pampering. It also suggests spending time with supportive friends, going on dates to meet new people, and becoming independent so that the ex notices the positive changes rather than seeking direct revenge.
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The fresh thinking that led to a company’s initial success is often replaced by a rigid devotion to the status quo.
Some people know what to do in theory to improve their social skills, but find it hard to get out of their comfortable rut and actually start making changes. If that applies to you, here's my take on how to get yourself going.
1) Taking up a new hobby can help take your mind off obsessing over a guy and boost your confidence.
2) Remind yourself of the guy's flaws by making a list of things that irritated you and refer to it when you find yourself daydreaming.
3) Spending time with supportive friends and family who can listen and offer encouragement can help work on getting over the obsession.
Raising an Inclusive Child by Karen KajmowiczKaren Kajmowicz
This document provides 9 tips for raising children to be inclusive rather than exclusive. The tips include checking your own privilege, supporting your child's uniqueness, volunteering to help them develop empathy, encouraging diverse friendships, reaching out to social outcasts, letting children make mistakes as they learn, trusting children but also listening to others, choosing battles wisely, and listening to reports of any bullying behavior.
40 reasons why your relationship is not workingalwayswrite
Most often than not, most of us struggle with our relationships. Many of us have thought about quitting several times. It is a lovely thing to be in a relationship with the opposite sex, but a different ball of game if the relationship is not working. The key is that we have to examine ourselves when relationships are not working as expected. Yes, there are many times when it wasn’t your fault, it was her fault. However, regardless of who’s at fault
it is, it is time to know the reasons why your relationship is not working and how you can fix it.
The document discusses mother's guilt and provides tips to help deal with it. It explains that mother's guilt is common and stems from feeling like one's best efforts aren't good enough. It then lists rules for silencing mother's guilt, such as getting real about perfection not being possible, stopping judgments of oneself, focusing on positives, and creating a supportive community. The document concludes by emphasizing that mother's guilt is natural but should not be weighed down by and that with love, children will not feel wanting.
This document provides tips for managing stress and anxiety during the holiday season, including maintaining a positive attitude, focusing on what's important, getting organized, taking care of yourself, and preparing responses to common questions. It suggests remembering your values, letting go of things out of your control, volunteering to take your mind off yourself, and bringing simple dishes to events to avoid extra stress. The tips encourage planning ahead, saying no when needed, and choosing to have a good holiday.
In this way, to endure your first date from ArabianDate.com, you have to maintain a strategic distance from questions and themes that can cause your accomplice to feel humiliated or perplexed.
This document provides advice for gaining confidence with women by starting small with socializing. It recommends starting with non-romantic social activities to improve basic social skills. Then interacting with women at shared interest activities without an end goal of dating. Being consistent with socializing weekly is key to building confidence. It also advises focusing on self-improvement rather than perceived flaws and not having unrealistic standards of what is needed to attract women.
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Relationship problems affect everybody at some point or another. Understanding what causes problems in relationships and how to both prevent them and fix them can help tremendously in saving a relationship.
The document provides 30 tips for happiness, including stopping spending time with negative people, facing problems head-on instead of running from them, being honest with yourself, prioritizing your own needs, and being grateful for what you have rather than focusing on what you lack. The tips encourage taking responsibility for your life and actions, narrowing your focus to small positive goals, and embracing life's challenges as opportunities for growth rather than complaints. Overall, the document advocates cultivating happiness by surrounding yourself with supportive people, addressing issues constructively, and maintaining a positive outlook.
The document outlines 12 universal truths according to Robert Rushford that can make each day easier, cleaner, better and more productive. The truths include allowing yourself to daydream and use your imagination, believing that there are no limits to what you can achieve, using your gifts to share with others, taking action without excuses or delays, enjoying the journey, and having faith that you are supported. The document encourages applying these truths to unleash your potential and accomplish your goals.
The document provides advice and reflections on living life to its fullest. It encourages the reader to be true to themselves, protect their heart from toxic people, and make the most of their time by pursuing their dreams and passions despite difficulties. The document also advocates forgiving yourself and others for mistakes, letting go of fears and past disappointments in order to move forward, and finding hope even in tough times by focusing on life's promise and pleasures yet to come.
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The document discusses the importance of sharing and provides 10 ways to get into the habit of sharing. It notes that sharing is one of the first lessons taught to children but becomes more difficult for adults. Some key ways to promote sharing included initiating sharing oneself, understanding other perspectives, providing positive reinforcement to others for sharing, and making small gestures of sharing everyday items or time. The overall message is that cultivating an attitude of openness, care, and accessibility with others can help create an environment where sharing feels natural.
It is important to give yourself personal time to self-reflect who you are such as your strengths and talents to help you make good decisions in life that will bring you happiness and increase your self-esteem.
The document discusses how incorporating happiness into business models can promote success. It outlines four pillars of happiness: autonomy, competence, relatedness, and self-esteem. Barriers to happiness like fear, confusion, loneliness and lack of control are discussed. Case studies of companies like Zappos, Moleskine, and Twitter are provided that successfully build the pillars of happiness into customer experiences.
As more and more people are coming to realize, there is far more to living a truly successful life than just earning a bigger salary and capturing a corner office. Our relentless pursuit of the two traditional metrics of success - money and power - has led to an epidemic of burnout and stress-related illnesses, and an erosion in the quality of our relationships, family life, and, ironically, our careers. In being connected to the world 24/7, we're losing our connection to what truly matters.
Drawing on the latest groundbreaking research and scientific findings in the fields of psychology, sports, sleep, and physiology that show the profound and transformative effects of meditation, mindfulness, unplugging, and giving, I show us the way to a revolution in our culture, our thinking, our workplace, and our lives.
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On September 20, 2012, Pacharee Pantoomano and Kittima Sethi, directors of Brand Now Co. Ltd, presented DIY Marketing and PR to a group at the Foreign Correspondent Club of Thailand. The session presented case studies showcasing different tools and tactics employed in marketing and PR. No copyright infringement intended in presenting the case studies. For more information, visit brandnow.asia.
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This document discusses incivility and its impacts, and provides suggestions for promoting civil engagement and building trust between government and communities. Some key points:
- Surveys found that 95% see incivility as a problem and 68% say it deters people from public service.
- Social media is often used to bully others or be uncivil. This can delay decisions and reduce work satisfaction.
- Building collaboration, allowing open ideas without ridicule, and ensuring public engagement can help address issues and enrich experiences. Altruism is more motivating than money.
- Younger generations have less social trust and faith in institutions, so engagement is important. Thoughts are provided on boards, social media use
1. The document discusses body language and how gestures can have different meanings across cultures.
2. It provides examples of how an "OK" gesture means different things in different countries, from money in Japan to rude in Brazil.
3. The document also notes that behaviors like head shaking can mean "yes" in some countries like Bulgaria and Iran, while typically meaning "no" in many Western cultures.
The document discusses the misrepresentation of Native American characters in comic books through the use of harmful stereotypes. It outlines several criteria to help evaluate the level of stereotyping, including examining the vocabulary used, how Native Americans speak and dress, whether they are portrayed as extinct or as either noble savages. The document provides specific examples from comic books that do and do not conform to these stereotypes. It argues for the need to recognize Native American humanity and diversity in comic book portrayals.
The document contains excerpts from various sources on life lessons and wisdom. It includes short stories, quotes, and passages about topics like: avoiding jumping to conclusions, not pretending to be something you're not, taking care of one's health, not fearing due to others' words, and the importance of honesty. The overall theme is imparting wisdom on living mindfully and avoiding foolish decisions or behaviors.
This document discusses various techniques and perspectives on happiness. It explores what happiness is, including that it is subjective well-being combined with finding meaning and purpose in life. Happiness is influenced by external factors like relationships and career satisfaction, as well as internal factors like mindset and outlook. Specific techniques are presented for increasing happiness through activities like mindfulness meditation, savoring positive experiences, and cultivating optimism. The document emphasizes that happiness is not a destination but something people can improve over time through consistent small efforts that rewire the brain to overcome negativity bias.
This document provides a summary of several funny children's books that are available in the library collection. It lists the title, author and brief description of the plot for the following books: Frindle by Andrew Clements, Judy Moody by Megan McDonald, Homer Price by Frank McCloskey, Bad Kitty by Nick Bruel, Wayside School by Louis Sachar, Geronimo Stilton, Freckle Juice by Judy Blume, Fat Men from Space by Daniel Pinkwater, books by Jon Scieszka, and How to Eat Fried Worms by Thomas Rockwell. It also provides the call numbers to find the books and instructions for reserving books that are checked out.
This document discusses strategies for structuring paid search campaigns using alpha and beta keyword approaches. The alpha approach focuses on high-volume head terms without negatives, while the beta approach uses modified broad match keywords with negatives. It recommends allocating time based on alpha versus both, provides tips for negative keyword list building, and discusses other techniques like fuzzy matching and using search query reports to optimize campaigns.
Para que un Gerente Comercial pueda ayudar a los integrantes de su Fuerza de Ventas a descubrir sus propios obstáculos y hacerse responsables de superarlos, es necesario que formule Preguntas Poderosas. Una serie de preguntas bien dirigidas, ayudarán al vendedor a mejorar sus resultados y alcanzar sus metas.
This document discusses evidence-based practices for preventing incivility in the workplace. Common prevention methods include codes of conduct, employee assistance programs, and role models to demonstrate civil behavior. The document recommends further prevention through zero tolerance policies, investigations, and family supportive supervisor behaviors. However, preventing incivility fully requires cooperation from all staff levels and promoting a cooperative work environment and team approach to patient care.
Este documento discute por qué los gerentes de ventas no suelen adoptar un enfoque de coaching para gestionar a sus vendedores. Las tres razones principales son que la empresa no promueve el modelo de coaching, los gerentes no saben cómo implementarlo y temen perder su autoridad. Adoptar un enfoque de coaching es mejor que usar premios y castigos porque permite identificar y superar obstáculos para mejorar la efectividad. El coaching se basa en hacer preguntas y establecer planes de acción para ayudar a los vendedores. El documento ofrece conse
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The document provides tips for maintaining civility and good manners in the workplace. It discusses best practices for communicating effectively via email, voicemail, telephone and in-person. Specific recommendations include writing formal emails, leaving detailed voicemail messages, properly transferring calls, and demonstrating polite behavior like saying please, thank you and smiling. The overall message is that practicing courtesy and consideration can create a better work environment and quality of life.
The document discusses the importance of handshakes and remembering names when meeting people. It provides tips for a proper handshake, including maintaining eye contact, not putting your other hand on the person, and being ready to initiate a handshake with women. It suggests practicing handshakes with trusted people and creating incentives to help remember names. Making it easy for others to remember your name by stating it clearly is also recommended.
The document discusses the importance of handshakes and remembering names when meeting people. It provides tips for a proper handshake, including maintaining eye contact, not putting your other hand on the person, and being ready to initiate a handshake with women. It suggests practicing handshakes with trusted people and creating incentives to help remember names. Making it easy for others to remember your name by stating it is also recommended.
On scolding - managing staff, children, partners and yourselfEric Tachibana
1) Scolding is an ineffective way to drive long-term behavioral change and can have negative consequences like damaging relationships, escalating bad behavior, or causing the recipient to lie or dig in.
2) Positive reinforcement through generous praise and reward of good behavior is more effective at modifying behavior than negative reinforcement like scolding.
3) Bad behavior should be neutrally discouraged by addressing it calmly and consistently without negative reactions.
4) Scolding should only be used in rare cases of life-threatening or illegal behavior when the seriousness demands a clear verbal response, but it risks desensitizing the recipient if overused.
10 Unique Ways To Show Random Act of Kindness | Solh Wellness.pdfSolh Wellness
An act of kindness does not have to be grandiose; it can be as simple as complimenting someone or smiling at a stranger. Solh Wellness explains ten unique Random Acts of Kindness ideas to help you spread positivity.
This document provides advice on developing healthy relationships and navigating adolescence. It discusses the key aspects of healthy relationships, including mutual respect, trust, honesty, support, maintaining separate identities, and good communication. It also covers signs of unhealthy relationships, dealing with breakups, and making responsible choices. The overall message is that developing these relationship skills during teenage years can help with lifelong learning, communication, citizenship, and problem-solving.
Self-empowerment encourages developing skills and knowledge to overcome obstacles in life or work. It covers five areas: physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual empowerment. Being self-confident involves self-appreciation, vision, purpose, commitment, and contribution. Effective self-empowerment in social situations requires being genuine, a good listener, having a sense of humor, acts of kindness, nurturing relationships, and maintaining confidence and control over one's emotions. Internal change for self-empowerment starts with recognizing defects, committing to change, deciding on alternatives, and sticking to a schedule for change until new habits form.
The document discusses daily, weekly, and yearly habits that can help increase happiness. Some suggested daily habits include smiling, exercising, getting enough sleep, eating mood-boosting foods, practicing gratitude, giving compliments, deep breathing, acknowledging unhappy moments, journaling, and facing stress head-on. Weekly habits include decluttering, spending time with friends, and planning the upcoming week. The document emphasizes that happiness looks different for everyone and the key is finding habits that fit each person's lifestyle.
9 Ways to Create Good Habits (and 5 Reasons Why We Fail At Breaking Bad Ones)Chelsea O'Brien
We all have habits. Some are good, healthy habits, while others are bad and possibly even dangerous.
Throughout our lives we often set goals to try to create new, good habits or to break the bad ones we already possess. Many people try again and again to change their habits for the better only to meet with failure in the end. Learning a new habit can be just as difficult as breaking a bad one that you’ve struggled with for years. There are reasons for this and steps that you can take to help ensure your success.
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Dating can make life more fun and interesting, whether you're looking for a long-term relationship or just wanting to socialize. Some key tips for a successful first date include dressing appropriately to make a good first impression, asking the other person questions to show interest in them rather than talking only about yourself, and maintaining eye contact during conversation. It's also important to be proactive, confident, and ensure both people are enjoying themselves. The goal is to be your authentic self so you know if you connect well with the other person.
This document outlines 10 rules for living that the author has developed over 26 years and 5 cities. The rules include following your heart and intuition, not wasting time regretting past mistakes or opportunities missed, believing in destiny and going with what feels right, being bold and fearless in taking on challenges, believing in reciprocity and treating others as you wish to be treated, valuing family above all else, embracing change, never holding back your feelings for fear of rejection, showing appreciation to those who deserve it, and loving yourself through self-reflection.
20 Things You Need to Let Go to Be HappyJay Perpetua
The document provides 20 things that people need to let go of in order to achieve happiness. Some of the key things mentioned include the approval of others, anger, negative body image, the idea of a perfect partner or life, excuses, past mistakes, and expectations. It encourages the reader to accept themselves, appreciate what they have, focus on personal growth and happiness rather than judging others, and to let go of unnecessary limitations and baggage that are holding them back.
This document provides an overview and copyright information for the book "50 Ways to Flourish After Divorce" by Patti Handy. It notes that Patti Handy is not a licensed therapist or investment advisor and the book is not a substitute for professional advice. It encourages readers to visit the author's website for a free e-book on financial healing after divorce. The document contains a dedication and thanks to family and friends for their support. It then lists the first 10 of 50 suggestions for ways to flourish after divorce, including leaning on family and friends, exercising, getting massages, praying, and volunteering.
There are, to be sure, a plethora of legitimate and valid responses to this question. But the most important thing to remember is that we all have a habit of putting ourselves at the centre of everything and experiencing every incident, discussion, scenario, etc.
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This document provides tips on how to declutter and organize different areas of one's life, including the home, mind, relationships, time management, and work area. It discusses how clutter in these areas can cause stress and prevent success and achievement of goals. Specific strategies are given for each area, such as getting rid of unused items, paying attention to thoughts, evaluating friendships, waking up earlier, and creating compartments at the desk. The overall message is that decluttering multiple domains can help reduce anxiety and allow one to reach their full potential.
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This document provides tips for developing a positive attitude and practicing positive thinking. It discusses how negative self-talk can be overcome by recognizing it and replacing negative thoughts with positive spins. Some ways to learn positive thinking mentioned are periodically evaluating thoughts for negativity and finding ways to put a positive spin on them. The document also lists 8 ways to create a positive attitude, such as remembering one's own power, embracing life, controlling reactions, and believing one is enough. Practicing positive thinking can benefit one's health, according to research.
This document provides tips for developing a positive attitude and practicing positive thinking. It discusses how negative self-talk can be overcome by recognizing it and replacing those thoughts with more rational, positive perspectives. Specific strategies mentioned include focusing on the positive aspects of a situation, challenging negative thoughts with logic, evaluating thoughts for positivity, and reminding yourself of past successes. Maintaining an optimistic outlook can provide mental and physical health benefits according to research.
The document outlines 17 habits for living a happy life:
1. Choose happiness daily and focus on what you want rather than what you don't want.
2. Be grateful for what you have like friends, family, food and shelter.
3. Set big written goals and ask yourself useful questions to stay focused on positivity.
4. Surround yourself with uplifting people and create an environment that supports happiness.
5. Do things even when you don't feel like it, be present in the moment, and help make others happy.
How to Improve Your Marriage by Sharing More Laughter With Your PartnerC Mellie Smith
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Today’s busy life constantly comes with packages of stress, anxiety, and apprehension; all of which are not invited to a healthy happy life. To cope, people search for therapies and guidance on how to limit or eradicate these things from daily schedules. However, the answer may be much simpler than that. If anything, it is to calm down and take everything slowly; the definition of Zen.
Today’s busy life constantly comes with packages of stress, anxiety,
and apprehension; all of which are not invited to a healthy happy
life. To cope, people search for therapies and guidance on how to
limit or eradicate these things from daily schedules. However, the
answer may be much simpler than that. If anything, it is to calm
down and take everything slowly; the definition of Zen.
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Trying To Change A Habit? Beware These 5 Traps.Gretchen Rubin
Trying to Change a Habit? Beware These 5 Traps outlines five common traps that can undermine efforts to change habits: 1) Thinking that since a good habit has been broken, there is no need to get back on track. 2) Believing that beating oneself up for mistakes will promote success, when compassion is actually better. 3) Using busyness as an excuse to avoid good habits. 4) Making justifications and exceptions for breaking habits. 5) Assuming an ingrained habit is so strong that it can be violated without consequences. The document advises being aware of these traps and mindfully working to establish new habits.
The document provides 5 tips for becoming a better listener: 1) Look for signs the other person wants to talk and signal willingness to listen; 2) Let the other person explain what's on their mind without judgment; 3) Encourage elaboration with open-ended questions, listening noises like "uh huh", attentive body language and eye contact; 4) Paraphrase what they said to show understanding; 5) Ask questions to help work towards a solution but don't feel the need to fix things. The overall tips are about paying attention, acknowledging the other perspective non-judgmentally, and helping them feel heard without taking over the conversation.
7 Tips On How To Make Friends and Influence People–18th Century Version.Gretchen Rubin
Samuel Johnson remarked that these letters “teach the morals of a whore, and the manners of a dancing master” — not exactly a rousing endorsement. Nevertheless, I think Lord Chesterfield has some provocative insights. Here’s an assortment of his advice.
The most commonly misplaced possessions are: cellphone, keys, sunglasses, purse, umbrella, bank card, tablet, documents (that’s a little broad), and wallet. The average person loses up to nine objects every day.
Meetings come in all shapes and sizes, so not all of these strategies will be useful, but here are some things I try to remember when I’m in or running a meeting.
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CHAPTER TWO (SHATKARMA AND PRANAYAMA)
Chapter 2 Verse 1 Being established in asana, pranayama should be practiced
Thus being established in asana and having control (of the body), taking a balanced diet; pranayama should be practiced according to the instructions of the guru.
Chapter 2 Verse 2
When prana moves, chitta (the mental force) moves. When prana is without movement, chitta is without movement. By this (steadiness of prana) the yogi attains steadiness and should thus restrain the vayu (air).
Prana and mind are intricately linked. Fluctuation of one means fluctuation of the other. When either the mind or prana becomes balanced the other is steadied. Hatha yoga says, control the prana and the mind is automatically controlled, whereas raja yoga says, control the mind and prana becomes controlled.
Chapter 2 Verse 3
As long as the vayu (air and prana) remains in the body, that is called life. Death is when it leaves the body. Therefore, retain vayu.
Chapter 2 Verse 4
The vital air does not pass in the middle channel because the nadis are full of impurities, So how can the state of unmani arise and how can perfection or siddhi come about?
Entrepreneurship is a journey filled with challenges, failures, and triumphs. Success does not come easy, especially in the competitive world of business.
However, many successful entrepreneurs have defied the odds and built empires from scratch through hard work, perseverance, and passion. Their stories serve as a source of inspiration for aspiring entrepreneurs who dream of making it big in the business world.
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The Interplay of Emotional Intelligence and Personality Development: Insights...Tim Han Success Insider
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Do Something Nice: Six Tips for Good Deeds That Take Less Than Five Minutes
1. Do something nice:
Six tips for good deeds that take
less than five minutes.
2. “Do good, feel good”
is one of the great truths of
happiness — but you may
be thinking, “Sure, good
deeds would make me
happy, but I barely have
time to get through the
essentials of my day.
I don’t have time to do
any good deeds!”
3. WRONG.
Here are some ways that you can help other people—
and make yourself feel great, at the same time—
in under five minutes.
4. 1. Be friendly. I’ve decided that
there are five degrees of social
interactions with strangers:
hostile, rude, neutral, polite, and
friendly. I find it very difficult to
be downright friendly to
strangers, but I always find
myself energized and cheered by
a friendly interaction. It only
takes an extra minute to
exchange a few pleasant words,
but it makes a real difference.
6. My sister, who is a TV-writer in Hollywood, once told me, “’Yes’
comes right away; ‘No’ never comes.” I’ve found this precept to
be widely true. In many circumstances, we find it hard to say
“no” — partly because it will hurt someone’s feelings, partly
because it closes a possibility that could otherwise remain open.
But waiting to hear “no” saps people’s energy by keeping them
hoping for an answer they aren’t going to get. If someone is
waiting for your “No,” put them out of their misery.
7. 4. Sign up on the national organ-donor registry. This takes
no time at all, and the consequences could be HUGE! Tell
your family that you signed up, too. Remember, the one
minute that someone takes, right now, to sign up on the
registry might save YOUR life six months from now.
And vice versa.
8. It can feel generous,
friendly, and fun-loving
to urge people to take
another piece of cake,
to drink another glass of
wine, or to make an
extra purchase, or to
urge them to give
themselves a break by
skipping the gym,
skipping class, or
quitting smoking next
week instead of today.
But when you see
people truly trying to
resist temptation,
encourage them to stick
to their resolutions.
5. Lead them not into temptation.
9. 6. Do
someone
else’s
chore.
Don’t you sometimes wish that someone would do one of your little jobs?
If nothing else, to show an awareness of the fact that you faithfully do it,
day after day? Emptying the diaper pail or starting the office coffee-pot,
even though it’s not “your” job, helps people feel appreciated and cared for.
10. 10
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