Women still file the overwhelming majority of sexual harassment claims, but men are starting to assert their workplace rights more and more. Over the last 20 years, the percentage of claims filed by men has doubled from eight percent to 16 percent.
You might reason that men are experiencing more harassment, which might be the case, but that probably does not explain the rise completely. Officials suspect that male victims have become less reluctant to come forward.
And while some male complainants experience harassment from female colleagues, men-on-men harassment is the most common type reported. This often includes harassment for perceived or actual homosexuality as well as unwelcome same-sex sexual advancements. My guess is that while sexual aggression from female co-workers does exist, some men still want to avoid the stigma associated with reporting this — since you know, real men are supposed to want sex all the time from any woman. Or perhaps we're supposed to find "horny" women comical and nonthreatening. These assumptions don't change the fact that any sexual harassment victim, male or female, can have their well-being and ability to work negatively impacted by a hostile work environment.
Have you heard of any cases of female-to-male sexual harassment?
I haven't, but I am glad men seem to be feeling more comfortable about reporting this sort of behavior. Male or female, harassment is not something you should have to deal with in the workplace. And though it may be less likely, I completely believe that women are capable of being overtly/improperly sexual with men.
1I know of a case, it wasn't reported, but it definitely should have been. When I was about 17 I worked at a Dunkin Donuts there was this lady that worked there as well, she's close to 50 I'd say, and she constantly harassed the younger boys that worked there. She tole one kid, who was around my age, that she'd take him in the mop closet and show him things he never knew. He kind of laughed it off, but you could tell he was very uncomfortable because of it. She said alot of inappropriate things to the boys we worked with and no one ever said anything which is kind of disturbing.
2I'm not sure what the reason is behind the 20 year trend, but I know that there has been a sharp increase in all discrimination/harassment claims (especially claims filed by men) in the past year and a half. A lot of people have been laid off due to the recession, and they see filing an EEOC charge as a way to get some quick money. Sad, but true. Also, as the article points out, most of the cases are actually brought by men against other men. I've definitely seen some homophobic plaintiffs who seem to think that a gay man talking to them constitutes actionable harassment. It's important to remember that the article is only about the number of claims that have been asserted, not the number of claims that have actual legal merit.
3I also wonder if it's possible that harassment claims aren't being filed as often by women (either because they are being harassed less or because they aren't filing claims as frequently for some other reason). If the same number of men file claims and fewer women file claims, the percentage of claims filed by men would rise. I'm sure it doesn't account for the entire rise, but I wonder if it has contributed.
4I'm not suprised being how fast too many women are these days. The men should report them if they feel violated....and the men should be taken very seriously.
5I'm glad more men are speaking up against it. I had issues with some cooks I worked with when I was a waitress... when I reported them NUMEROUS times, I had management tell me "They're just immature." They didn't want to fire the guy who gave me the most trouble because he was their up and coming head cook. BS. I was nice, I never did anything to them, and they just loved to give me a hard time (I also brought them cookies and cupcakes a lot). I'm really laid back, but when they would refuse to give me things for my tables, that was affecting my tip and wasting my time, it was personal. They also used to go around to the girls and take pictures with the phones under the uniform dresses. I once got burned by them on purpose too. What's sad is sexual harassment claims often go unanswered.
6I perceive the biggest reason, among others, that men would want to file sexual harassment FROM A WOMAN is if the man is happily married or coupled and the woman is behaving inappropriately with intentions to tempt the man to cheat or gain some sort of advantage, JUST like in that predictable movie Obsessed.
7It's probably defensive.
8When a woman can flip it around and claim you harrased her, then you're in trouble. Get it on record that she's harrasing you and you have some official history protecting you.
Guys are still not women with Penises.
Does lying about a male coworker having sexually harassed a woman constitute female-on-male sexual harassment? Because that happens all the time.
9"Culture eats strategy's lunch" is one guide for change in human groups. The culture of the business office has been shifting for 70 years. The market has seen a flood of new entries, ...women, who can communicate better than the "old crowd", ...males. This had reached a tipping point as early as the 1990s, when I was a temp. I have Asperger Syndrome, and Type 1 diabetes, and could not partake of the social/eating/flirting culture of an office. This was deeply resented, apparently. I lost job after job I was doing well in. I was eventually told by female temps working beside me, after the job was over, that my mostly female bosses had been keeping the permanent female employees happy by firing me. Those women experienced resentment from my lack of socializing/flirting/attention. I have looked at something after reading your article. I went to a major porn site, and looked for how many "Boss/worker" porn bits showed male or female bosses demanding sex. The ratio was 4/5,...still with more male bosses, but higher than I would ever have expected for females. Remember that the female teacher/male student scandals started becoming prominent about within years of the theme becoming popular on such sites. Culture beats strategy in any organization, and the culture is shifting in many ways.
10There's a scene in Erin Brokovich where Julie Roberts uses her cleavage to befuddle a clerk into violating protocol so she can search the files. Hollywood plays female on male sexual harassment for laughs. I have seen women dress provacatively to dominate a workplace. Daring a man to stare so she can claim sexual harassment. The intimidation is used for the woman to get her way.
11I think that an important thing to understand is that sexual harassment is often about power and because of the differences between men and women it can take different forms.
Men typically harass women by propositioning them or making sexually suggestive statements because by doing so it emphasizes their power in the workplace and reinforces their masculine identity.
In my experience however, when women harass it is usually in a way that is intended to demean and emasculate their male target, because that is what gives them a sense of power.
Furthermore, my observations lead me to suspect that male sexual harassment is particularized, i.e. a desire to "bag" a particular female coworker, which may result in targeting a dangerous target, which is to say a women who is attractive, with social status and who could use the status to strike back at the harasser. One the other hand my impression of female to male harassment is that often the women in question wants to be some man, any man, in "his place" and this allows for the selecting of targets that are socially marginal and less likely to possess the clout necessary to push back against the harassment.
Of course, I am not saying that any of these statements are absolutes, just food for thought.
12I knew a female supervisor in a government job that demanded a subordinate male perform sex acts in exchange for items important to him she had confiscated being returned, and threat of punishing assignments if he refused to comply. He refused when the demands escalated to oral sex acts for which he had an aversion. It was never reported. He never got his materials either.
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