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Tony Blair told Princess Diana her relationship with Dodi Fayed was a problem

Ex-PM reveals in his memoir that he told the princess he was uneasy about her relationship with Fayed

Princess Diana
Tony Blair told Princess Diana that her relationship with Dodi Fayed 'was a problem'. Photograph: Tim Rooke/Rex Features

"We were both in our ways manipulative people," Blair writes, "perceiving quickly the emotions of others and able instinctively to play with them."

As well as admitting a strong personal fondness for Princess Diana – "I really liked her and, of course, was as big a sucker for a beautiful princess as the next man; but I was wary too" – Blair saw her as encapsulating the political sea change that swept the country in 1997: "Whatever New Labour had in part," Blair writes, "she had in whole."

But Diana was, writes Blair, "an unpredictable meteor" who burst into the royal family's "predictable and highly regulated ecosystem". Her death, three months after Blair entered Downing Street, was "menacing" for the royal family. The Queen was reluctant to speak to the nation after her death because she "didn't want to pretend to a view of Diana that was more conflicted than the public could accept".

But it was Diana's relationship with Dodi Fayed that concerned Blair. The last time they met was in July. "It had not been all that easy," he writes. During a private walk in the grounds of Chequers Blair told Diana that he felt her relationship with Fayed "was a problem".

"This was not for the obvious reasons, which would have made some frown on him; his nationality, religion or background don't matter a hoot to me. I had never met him ... so if you ask me, well, spit it out, what was wrong, I couldn't frankly say, but I felt uneasy," he writes.

Diana didn't like Blair's interference – "I could feel the wilful side of her bridling" – but by the end of the conversation they were again on a "warm and friendly" footing.

Despite their personal relationship, Blair admits that from the moment he was told of her death, he was "trying to work out how it should play".

"I know that sounds callous," he reveals. "I was genuinely in grief ... but I also knew that this was going to be a major national, in fact global, event like no other ... I had to work out how it would work out."

Blair is candid about the tension of the days immediately following Diana's death: "Throughout, we were walking a tightrope, thinner and more frayed by the day, between organising everything to go well and 'cashing in' or exploiting."

He admits that the now-famous phrase he used the next day, "the people's princess" now seems like something from "another age. And corny. And over the top. But at the time, it felt natural."

Despite the high drama of Diana's death, however – and a poll showing he had an "absurd rating of 93% approval" (in an internal Labour poll) – Blair insists he never lost sight of the fact that there were more important challenges on the horizon.

"I had, at least, the sense to know ... that the tests of achievement for a prime minister and a government were rather different," he writes.


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  • SpottedChui

    1 September 2010 12:10PM

    "This was not for the obvious reasons, which would have made some frown on him; his nationality, religion or background don't matter a hoot to me. I had never met him ... so if you ask me, well, spit it out, what was wrong, I couldn't frankly say, but I felt uneasy," he writes.

    You felt all of the above. If he was some white collared white boy, it would not have been a problem. How did she really die? Do you feel 'uneasy' about that?

  • TVwriter

    1 September 2010 12:28PM

    @SpottedChul

    How did she really die? Do you feel 'uneasy' about that?

    She died because she was driven too fast by an over-the-limit-chauffeur and she wasn't wearing a seat belt.

    Get over it. Move on. Take your conspiracy theory twaddle somewhere else where idiots reside.

  • musolen

    1 September 2010 12:34PM

    The whole book as far as I can garner from these quotes is full of half thoughts and inconclusive mutterings. The art of saying nothing with a gravitas that feels laden with meaning.
    Apart from war-collaborator and innocent iraqi mass murderer that may very well be his epitaph.

  • gazzag

    1 September 2010 12:49PM

    @davidabsalom

    Diana was the mother of the future king of England - William. As the King of England he will also be Supreme Governor of the Church of England. If Dodi and Diana had a child, it would have potential constitutional issues.

    I'm not saying that it's right, I'm simply giving the stock answer to your question.

  • SuntoryBoss

    1 September 2010 12:56PM

    "This was not for the obvious reasons, which would have made some frown on him; his nationality, religion or background don't matter a hoot to me. I had never met him ... so if you ask me, well, spit it out, what was wrong, I couldn't frankly say, but I felt uneasy," he writes.

    So he goes around advising people on who they should and shouldn't be sleeping with, despite not even knowing what his own reasons are? That's just....bizarre. Absolutely bizarre.

  • OakenGrove

    1 September 2010 1:00PM

    Diana was paranoid and a little crazy, and certainly an attention seeker.

    I'm not saying her experience with the Royal family was particularly nice, but I think she had a lot of personal failings which exacerbated the situation.

  • walsallputh

    1 September 2010 1:04PM

    So years before he started putting his nose into other peoples business in Iraq, he was trying to tell Diana who she could go out with ?????

    WTF !!! This guy really think's he is God. What a prat !

    I cant wait to read what other wise words of wisdom he will have to say....

  • SirOrfeo

    1 September 2010 1:14PM

    "This was not for the obvious reasons, which would have made some frown on him; his nationality, religion or background don't matter a hoot to me. I had never met him ... so if you ask me, well, spit it out, what was wrong, I couldn't frankly say, but I felt uneasy," he writes.

    So if you couldn't 'frankly say', why say anything at all to her then... and why repeat it to the world now?

  • OopsItsMe

    1 September 2010 1:23PM

    How pathetic is this man? I'm amazed he was ever our PM!

    A man with far too much blood on his hands, thinks he's God's man on earth, failed the electorate, covers his failings by diverting all eyes on what a 'bully' and nasty man his ex BFF Gordon Brown was/is... oh and he had such the hots for Diana... I reckon he muttered how he disapproved of Di and Dodi because he couldn't convince Diana to kiss his feet...

  • BABATUNDE

    1 September 2010 1:28PM

    Diana was young willful and immature.........in her desire to get back at the royals she went too far.....in life we are not as free as we think we are...and especially for a British princess
    Do you actually think that a Muslim Saudi royal princess will fraternize with a christian American playboy?

  • blackloch

    1 September 2010 1:31PM

    How utterly patronising and sexist: 'I could feel her wilful side bridling' - it's like a line out of Mills and Boon. What possible business was it of Blair's who she had a relationship with?

    The man actually makes me feel physically nauseous.

  • bugiolacchi

    1 September 2010 1:36PM

    Diana was young willful and immature.........in her desire to get back at the royals she went too far.....in life we are not as free as we think we are...and especially for a British princess
    Do you actually think that a Muslim Saudi royal princess will fraternize with a christian American playboy?

    ... and share hotel rooms before marriage... she would have been beheaded after being stoned to death. Guardian readers beware: conflict of ideals (Islam = (true) Christianity)..

  • bugiolacchi

    1 September 2010 1:38PM

    Should have Blair said what he said to Diana who was in friendly terms with? Yes, of course, and he would have been right to voice concerns on the constitutial front and the image of UK plc.
    Should have Blair recounted such conversation? No, keep it to yourself...

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    donkeyji

    1 September 2010 1:59PM

    Er, so why was Diana's relationship with Fayad a problem Mr Blair? You haven't said why apart from it made you uneasy....but why? So nothing to do with the fact that Dodi was the son of a wealthy Muslim who contensciously owned Harrods? Come on, spit it out man.

  • Geoff01

    1 September 2010 2:03PM

    @Gazzag

    Diana was the mother of the future king of England - William. As the King of England he will also be Supreme Governor of the Church of England. If Dodi and Diana had a child, it would have potential constitutional issues.

    I don't see why there should be any constitutional implications. So the king has a younger half brother who is not in line to the throne. So what? It has happened before.

  • zephirine

    1 September 2010 2:07PM

    This bit's spot on, though:

    "We were both in our ways manipulative people," Blair writes, "perceiving quickly the emotions of others and able instinctively to play with them."

    I imagine the objections to Dodi al Fayed were very little to do with him being a Muslim and a lot to do with the particular family he came from. Blair obviously didn't have the courage to say so, though.

  • cloudgroover

    1 September 2010 2:09PM

    Here is a fact, Diana was fronting a campaign against land mines. She was going up against arms dealers, Dodi and his Daddy had been involved in intelligence organizations and Blair helped the arms dealers profit from the false war he led the world into in Iraq. She had her fingers in the most dangerous pie of all and that is What Dictator Blair was uneasy about.

  • Worktimesurfer

    1 September 2010 2:17PM

    Do you actually think that a Muslim Saudi royal princess will fraternize with a christian American playboy?

    No, but it reflects badly on them that she couldnt and it reflects well on us that Diana lived a life in which she could have a relationship with a muslim man. Blair doesnt know what he should think, but its quite a common position amoungst liberals - 'smoke all the pot you like so long as your not my daughter' - and so on.

  • Fungolo33

    1 September 2010 2:21PM

    I'll spell it out for those who are confused. This part

    not for the obvious reasons, which would have made some frown on him; his nationality, religion or background don't matter a hoot to me

    is a lie.

    I'm not usually one to entertain conspiracy theories but I do find the fact that the PM actually went as far as to mention his 'discomfort' with the relationship to Diana somewhat menacing. Two months later they're both dead? Hmmn....

  • TVwriter

    1 September 2010 2:31PM

    @Fungolo33

    I'm not usually one to entertain conspiracy theories but .... Two months later they're both dead? Hmmn....

    Hmm. If I were you, I'd stick to your usual attitude, then, or people may think you're a twit.

  • bugiolacchi

    1 September 2010 2:33PM

    PM actually went as far as to mention his 'discomfort' with the relationship to Diana somewhat menacing. Two months later they're both dead? Hmmn....

    ..
    Ahhhhhhh: she died because SHE WAS NOT WEARING A SIT BELT! Her fault, really and a warning to all those motorists who insist not to wear one, because they are 'real' men or woman who find them too 'tight' on their chest.
    Not a word about this. And she was quite unbalanced, buy the admission from everyone who met her. And sweet, in her own way. But so is my mother and she is not likely to be sanctified as Diana... Guys, get real!

  • Kerrygold

    1 September 2010 2:49PM

    @cloudgroover

    This is the first time I have heard anybody suggest the land mines industry as the source of her 'assassination' or 'accident'. I've heard about MI5 and the white car, the mysterious flash and the fake blood for the test, as well as the stories of Prince Philips involvement, and the fact that a tactical team arrived at the British embassy in Paris before the 'accident'.

    I think it is clear that the Establishment had the means, the motive and the opportunity, but still don't believe they did it. I know Blair and Mandelson and New Labour were bootlickers for big business, but are you suggesting the Princess was killed by the arms industry?

  • uptherams

    1 September 2010 8:44PM

    I had never met him ... so if you ask me, well, spit it out, what was wrong, I couldn't frankly say, but I felt uneasy,"

    Being a drug dealer, perhaps.

  • trevorgleet

    2 September 2010 10:12PM

    So on his own admission, Blair (1) tried to meddle in the private life of a woman who by then had nothing to do with the running of the country; (2) piously denies he had the obvious bigoted motives for doing so, but can't offer any alternative reasons, (3) used her death as an opportunity for spin and manipulation, (4) is still getting mawkish and sentimental about this sad but ultimately insignificant person 13 years on.

    A minor matter, but revealing of the man.

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