I am a 64-year-old man, physically fit and Fully Functioning!! My problem is, that I have been diagnosed with early indications of Alzheimer's, which can cause me confusion or forgetfulness, and certainly it can get me tongue- tied. As I am not always on the ball, it makes it virtually impossible to find a loving relationship. It's not as if I have an infection! I have memory gaps that can make verbal conversation difficult, particularly if I attempt to make a date. I had a very active and lively sex life with my wife (who died four years ago), and I desperately miss having a sexual partner.
Women do not respond to linear conversation alone, many love other qualities such as fun and playfulness. These often rate higher than an ability to be logical. I recommend that you woo prospective partners with your sense of humour. Instead of worrying so much about your memory, try to cultivate the ability to make a joke at your own expense when you forget something – many women will find this endearing. I suspect that you're coming across as nervous and insecure, but attraction has a lot to do with confidence. You obviously feel very positive about your sexual ability, so radiate that. Focus on your positive attributes. When making an approach, remind yourself that you are what you said in your first sentence – Fully Functioning, with capital 'F's and two exclamation marks.
• Pamela Stephenson Connolly is a clinical psychologist and psychotherapist who specialises in treating sexual disorders.
• Send your problem to private.lives@guardian.co.uk
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